The awesome people at Harmless Hugs in Delhi put together the first LGBTQ+ Flashmob in India. And what a spectacle it was ! Such a proclamation – We are here and we are Queer ! Deal with it …..
Another break- up ….. Another relation went kapuuut …….
And in case you are wondering, NO its not Rhys and me I am talking about …. A common and very dear friend of ours broke up with his boyfriend.
Their’s was a candle in the wind sorta deal. Whirlwind romance with roses and public declarations of love, names tattooed within a couple of months …. and then fights and hurt feelings …. to one drunken night when our friend got a little too drunk and was falling all over the street but his boyfriend rather than see him home safe and sound just couldn’t wait to go off partying some more ditching our friend to get run over on the road ! So the next day they broke up ….over the phone, no less…..
Just makes me wonder … What exactly goes into a successful relationship ? Why did Rhy and I work out while quite a few relations around us kept crumbling away ?
As I sat pondering these questions, Rhys sends me his love with this song in a text …..
And so I thought….. Screw the reasons…. i’ll just enjoy the moment, the song and my gorgeous darling …… And dance with him !!!
Till next time
Finally the last in series of “How Nick n Rhys got together” . Since i had promised that i will tell how i asked out Nick, so here it goes…
Planning any event requires a few things. Like-
1. An appropriate environment/venue (it was Nick’s room in this case..:) )
2. To create an ambiance suitable to the event. (It was created by the background music i played )
3. To catch the person’s interest in the event. (I did that very well by blindfolding my Nick.. )
4. A special unique component. (It was dance in our case since he loves to dance.. lol .. 😛 )
5. And finally the moment of asking him out (For this, i wrote a poem for him)
As Nick had given me a warning that ‘proposal for being his boyfriend be good enough, or else he will reject it..lol.. 😛 ‘. So i started planning it in late December 2011.
I knew that i will going to ask Nick out in his room only. Next was to find some music. I found a song appropriate for the evening after searching for 2-3 long hours, all thanks to you-tube. It was “Can’t take my eyes off you- By Lady Antebellum”
I decided to write a poem for Nick, although i m a poet and have never ever written anything before. Still i had to make it good, so i wrote a small poem for him. It took me around 1-2 hours for the poem, and subsequent changes in the poem took a lot of time for me.
Next was to create Nick’s interest into it and adding a special component to my proposal, so as to make it unique. I thought of stimulating all his senses except vision. 😛 So i decided to blindfold him and then make him dance on the song i had selected. Then by the end of song, i would place him at a spot where a small placard would be kept saying “I Love You..” At the same time, i would ask him to open his eyes when i will be on my knees.. 😉 Just at that moment i had decided to recite my poem to him..
But the reality is usually different from what we plan.. A few issues cropped up at the last moment, like i couldn’t find paint and any placard to write “i love you”. So instead i had to use the only available form of color i had -SHOE POLISH.. 😀 I got an old cardboard from somewhere and wrote my 3 word message on it by a shoe polish. Following this, my preparation was done for the evening.
3rd January 2012- It was evening when i entered Nick’s room, where he was just lazying around in his bed. I asked him to be patient with me while i blindfolded him and my sweet Nick did as i said. Next, i placed the cardboard with my message at its spot, and played the music on laptop. I pulled Nick swiftly out of bed and into my arms, moving our feet together slowly to the tunes of song. I did a little bit of ballet, whatever i could manage to.. lol.. 😛 (I am a very bad dancer, unlike my dancer boyfy Nick..:) ). By the end of song and the ballet dance, i had deliberately brought Nick to that very spot where my cardboard was placed. I went down on my knees and asked him to open his eyes.
He saw me on my knees and also that placard/cardboard. I started reciting my poem. At first, he was just surprised and couldn’t speak a word till i finished my poem. (Till date i don’t know whether he was surprised ’cause of the preparation or the fact that i used a shoe polish to write “i love you” on a waste cardboard..lol. 😛 ).
By the end when i had finished my poem, i waited for his reply. He just pulled me up towards himself and softly kissed me.. And said “Yes, my darling, I will be your BOYFRIEND.. 🙂 ”
And that’s how Nick and Rhys got together as boyfriends… 🙂
Love you Nick..
Organizing these classes was none other than Rhys. This is where I remember first talking to Rhys ( though he assures me we had talked before then ….. and it pisses him off that I don’t remember !!) Though he was in my class in college, we had never spoken before. In fact I hadn’t even noticed him before then (Rhys would point out here that I’m an arrogant ass as he already knew about me and had even confessed that he was a fan of my artwork! Apparently I didn’t even acknowledge him then….. 😛 ). For two hours after college, around twelve to sixteen of us would sweat it out on the dance floor trying very hard to not look like a bundle of odd angles and jerky movements. I loved the opportunity to dance and would look forward to these classes but unfortunately the classes did not go on for long. To keep on dancing, my dance partner and I decided to take formal classes in salsa from a dance studio and she thought it would be nice to have some company there so we asked Rhys if he and his partner would like to join the classes with us, but they refused. It was our common interest in dance that made us friends.
Working for a cultural festival in our college, I was assigned to the tea and snacks station along with Rhys. Over the course of next three days we worked side by side, catering to the gastronomic needs of the celebrities performing. While he became pretty adept at making tea and pouring juice and stuff, the plating and garnishing was left to me.We became pretty good friends during this time (though of course I had no idea what was to come).
One day, after the festival had ended, I got a strange sms from Rhys saying, ” I am sorry” . Very perplexed, I asked him why he was apologizing to which he replied that he had thought i was gay but now he realized that I am not and he was sorry for making the assumption. I was pretty taken aback at this because though I myself was pretty confused about my preferances at that time (the reason would take up another post about my past ) but i replied that there was nothing to be sorry about and that i was not offended or anything. So we chatted for a while and I had the strange thought of getting into bed with him ( will clarify in the above mentioned post about my past! ) However staying true to my nature of over-analysing the most insignificant things, I thought that Rhys was straight and also a bit homophobic based on his need to apologise for thinking I was gay as if it were something bad to think about someone…..
That day marked the beginning of a deep friendship marked by a lot of chats over the phone and even more chats over messages……..
P.S.- 1. Subsequently we shall keep posting the rest of the story from becoming friends to becoming lovers! 😉
2. Sorry about being all over the place with the sequence of our story ( starting from the middle and going backwards and forwards at random) we shall number the stories in order after we have posted them all…… till then bear with us and our childish ways of posting!!!