You have no right to judge me !

Often I come across people who would say this to me in a pathetic pity tone “Oh you are committed.. You don’t know how it feels like to have random sex and hook-ups.” or “You are wasting your youth, your life.” or “Hahaha !! You can never realize the satisfaction in having random meaningless sex” or “You just a committed boring guy.” , and muhc more similar rubbish crap….

I wanna shoot out to all the single men in in the LGBTQ community that being in a relationship isn’t the worst thing in a gay’s life. I love being in a relationship, and I feel lucky to be with a guy who loves me more than anyone.

Yes I am a gay guy without any past hook ups or random one night stands. But I don’t feel that this is something I would regret in my life ever. I am not the kind of guy who can have random meaningless sex with a guy whose name I get to know in the morning after the hangover (and sex) !

No one has a right to judge me by passing such hideous comments on my relationship status, or by pitying me. Just because you cannot handle a relationship or get your shit together, that doesn’t give you any privilege or an upper hand in life to look down upon committed guys like me and say such disgraceful things.

Secondly, another irritating thing I have been hearing recently is that since gays are superficial, I should dress up properly so I can be liked by others based solely on my appearance. I am sorry but I beg to differ guys. I don’t believe that outer superficial appearance is everything. Stop judging a book just by its cover !!!

I do not and cannot bend according to so many stereotypes of the gay community itself that I would lose my identity eventually. We already have a lot of stereotypes of the straight hetero”normal” society. Please do not pressurize the people of your own community by putting up many more such stereotypes.

I just wanted to vent out my anger that has been piling up since a long time, and I had no one to talk to.

Good night folks !

 

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Lie to me….!!!!!!!

Its been 2 days since I returned from a 2 week long vacation cum work leave from Netherlands. Today i met Nick after 2 long weeks and we both hugged each other like anything.  Those last two weeks had been so lonely for both of us without each other.

I went to Netherlands on 7 July and we had spent a long night together before i left that day. On reaching there, I thought i will get busy with my work and stuff and these 2 weeks will pass very rapidly. But just after a day, i started missing him like hell and thought “Dude he is my boyfriend and i haven’t seen him in last 2 days and wont be able to see him for the next 2 weeks…OMG.. how will i survive..”. I called him at that very instant and talked to him for around 5mins and got some relief and we decided we will chat every night at a fixed time

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Then we started chatting almost every night since then but because his laptop had crashed, so we couldn’t skype and had to resort to just gmail or watsapp, and believe me those simple chats were the best part of my trip. 🙂 I used to send him few pictures everyday and we used to discuss how our day was. And let me tell you, Nick was my sole support there whenever i got upset and talked to him to make my mood better and he always succeeded.

Interestingly, Nick asked me to go to clubs whenever possible and check out many guys there and flirt with them (Mr. Liberal Boyfriend.. lolzzz….). And i did as he said (me being an obedient boyfriend… 🙂 ) and checked out many guys there and a guy there even winked and smiled at me, but at that time i had to leave ’cause my friends were leaving and so nothing happened after that.

Anyhow, those 2 weeks passed without Nick and when i came back, we hugged each other so tightly, made out like passionate lovers and had sex like wild animals.. hahahahahaha.. 😀 :D. And i also gave him his gift which i got for him from Netherlands.

After all this, we were just lying in each other’s arms. Just then Nick asked me something. He asked me what will be our future as we both know it’s not possible and practical in a society where we live, to get married and live together. We also discussed about the girls in our lives (lets call my girl G and his girl H). He loves H as much he loves me but he said he can’t leave me, and doesn’t know now what will he say to H. He is confused about all this. Moreover, he asked me if i am ever going to ask out G, and i said I won’t. NIck emphasized further that both of us already knew its not going to work out between two of us (Nick and me) as a long term relationship, considering the fact that our “conservative society” wont accept it. But on the contrary, we both are extremely happy at the time and we don’t want to break up such “a beautiful relation called Love” just for the future which is still unknown to us…!!!

This discussion was left in the middle as we both had to got for some work. I came home but since then, i haven’t been able to stop myself from thinking about it. Although we started dating each other only after discussing the consequences and we very well knew that we will have to break up eventually, but somehow in these past 6 months, an extremely wonderful relation has grown in between us, beyond the limits of explanation in words. It’s more than love, more than friendship, more than just a brother… I know it will sound very melodramatic to you all, but its all true.

Nick, i haven’t posted it here to upset you or anything but to express what you mean to me and that the dilemma which u are facing now, i have been facing since a long time but i never cared to look into it as it would have made me sad altogether. I got a bit sad today when u said ” we both knew already that there is no future in our relation……..” but that sadness didn’t hit me at that time ’cause i was with you and when i m with you, no negative thing can affect me.

My take on this would be “ I don’t want to think about it and be happy with whatever time i have with you.. I can lie to myself  about the fact that we can’t be together forever and live with this false belief, so that both of us can stay happy for as long as possible….. “

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I would appreciate it if the readers of this post could suggest us something.

Love

Rhys